Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author, writes… …

I’m frequently asked how to find love when there’s been so much failure in the past. I thought I’d share some of the frequently asked questions and the Universal Law of Attraction model answer.

1. I’m just about to give up on love. I’m in my mid-40’s. I’m afraid my time has passed.

Don’t give up. It’s NEVER too late. Make it your dominant intention to find out what belief you hold that stands between you and being a magnet for love.

Consider the Universe is a gigantic intention fulfillment machine. When you want a love relationship and you keep getting duds, there’s a mismatch in your beliefs. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. When you find out what that belief is, do whatever it takes to soothe yourself about it. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How do I bring in the certainty in receiving? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. How do you work on the positive expectancy, the believing, knowing, the certainty? One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Every day, several times per day.

Play with the energy of make believe and feel it as real. How will you feel when… … the love of your dreams shows up … you plan a surprise gourmet picnic for him … you giggle at the inside jokes you both share … you play games in the car on a long ride etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

Here are some dating tips and insights to help you get back into the game, especially if you’re dating after divorce. In the last of our series on Dating Consciously, “

Appearance Aren’t Everything,” let’s talk about the all important external part of appearance. Here are the results from a survey taken by a popular dating. The most important attributes in a mate

• Personality 30%
• Sense of Humor 14%
• Smile 12%
• Looks 11%
• Eyes 10%
• Hair 7%
• Education 7%
• Physique 5%
• Career 3%
• Popularity 0%

As you can see, Personality rated top, overwhelmingly!

What does that say about a person? It says that personality is a desirable trait from either person’s point of view.

Appearance is often categorized as an external representation of a person. Personality, self-confidence, an engaging attitude, warmth and authenticity are the traits that win out over Physical Appearance. So many of us are hung up on physical appearance, we get stopped before we get started.

What are characteristics of personality? Self-confidence. The ability to relax and enjoy in a easy and engaging manner. What are inherent traits of self-confidence?

1. Being clear on an objective.

2. Self-assurance.

3. Self-esteem.

4. Under most circumstances you remain non-plussed.

What I’m pointing to is the non-physical aspects of ‘Personality’. An engaging personality has little to do with physical appearance. Dating for many people gets difficult when you’re focused on the externals.

Your internal dialog goes something like this … “I’m no longer a spring chicken, I can’t compete with the hotties, The singles scene seems so superficial.”

Feeling confident, being ready to shine, being kind and open, will make all the difference. Realize that you don’t have to do the singles thing. Don’t limit yourself by what others are saying.

From the perspective of a Law of Attraction Coach, the essence of what you emanate is attracted or drawn right back to you. If that’s so, (and it IS) doesn’t it makes sense to get dressed with a smile before you go out of the house? It becomes a matter of practicing the traits of self-confidence; being clear about what you want, the ability to have it, knowing your worthy of what you want, and being calmly expectant that the timing is all in perfect order.

“To be in the Dating Consciously mode, you need to ENERGETICALLY dress for success”.

To win the dating game, you want to remember it’s your choice. So choose it to be fun.

Try scripting your desired outcome for any date. Write as though the date already happened and you’re really pleased with the outcome. If you don’t have any dating prospects, script a pleasant outcome from a trip to the library or coffee shop. You’re creating your entire life by your beliefs and your thoughts, so why not get creative and deliberate about it. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Your enjoyment of life is directly related to how you perceive every event, situation or outcome. It’s not always easy to see that our interpretation of an event is what makes it good or bad. Gain super power by taking on that it’s your job to feel joy and confidence. Nobody else has the power to make you feel bad or good, for that matter. It’s always an inside job.

Remember, dating is a game. Relationships are a game. Make sure your games are for fun and you’ll always have a great experience. I wish you many fun adventures!

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

Are you tired of wading through one date after another to find Mr. or Ms. Right? If you’re dating after divorce and it’s time to get back into the mainstream again, Then you’re probably not dating just for the fun of it. In other words, it’s not a sport or a hobby for you. Most likely you’re looking for some meaningful contact with another like-minded individual. Someone with whom you can share good conversation, fun activities and match up on a number of similar interests.

Whether you are tired of browsing the on-line dating sites, want to find the love of your dreams, or just ended a long term relationship, it’s time you consider dating consciously.

What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives and intentions before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene

Your thoughts create your reality – so wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?

You can make a fun game of it and I’ll show you how — to find a really fun and loving relationship.

Is your curiosity peaked?

Of course it does!

I’ve encapsulated a nailed down Attraction approach to win the game of dating. It’s called Dating Consciously. Just for the fun of it I’ve designed a 3 Part Series on Dating Consciously designed to get you moving in the higher vibration of getting what you really want, whether that’s having fun dating or attracting a fun and loving relationship.

In the first of this Dating Consciously Series I’d like to address “The Game” portion of The Dating Game. Dating is a GAME!

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: An activity where you compete involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, usually for their own amusement or for that of spectators.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, something is out of alignment.

For many, the latter definition contains elements that take the FUN right out of the pursuit of dating. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Curiously enough, these are precisely what you want to stay away from when dating.

FIVE Dating Do’s

1. Play. Simple as it may seem, most people don’t think of dating as play. You played all day long when you were a kid. How sublime was that? No agenda, no comparisons. Just easy play! Even if your date is a serious type. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they’re no fun.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is the most infectious way to spread joy. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will deliberately find ways to feel good and laugh. Smile a lot. At the waitress or waiter, at the host. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. She’s got a nervous giggle. He makes noise when he eats. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Again, you don’t have to see them again. Being present is important and will go a long way in building intimacy later on. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, you don’t have to use listening just in the dating world

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your time to talk, be clear and be heard. As you have given your attention to your date, expect the same. You haven’t interrupted him or her while he or she has been talking. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Just kindly ask for what you’d like. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

It doesn’t matter if your 25 or 75, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: A competitive activity involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, for your own interest or for the interest of observers.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, something is out of alignment.

For many, the second definition kills the joy and has you sitting on the sofa Saturday nights. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Interestingly enough, these are the things to AVOID when dating.

FIVE Things To DO When Dating

1. Play. Simple as it may seem, most people don’t think of dating as play. Remember when you were the innocent kid playing in the mud? How sublime was that? No agenda, no comparisons. Just easy play! If your date is the somber type, make it your priority to have fun. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they’re no fun.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is very contagious. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will consciously look for reasons to feel good and laugh. Smile a lot. At the waitress or waiter, at the host. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is a great way to make a connection with your companion. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. She’s got a nervous giggle. He makes noise when he eats. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Don’t worry, you never have to go on a second date. This is an important practice, however, and it is an intimacy builder. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, this is an excellent practice in general with all relationships.

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your time to talk, be clear and be heard. As you have given your attention to your date, expect the same. Ask for the same attention, if you’re not getting it. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Just kindly ask for what you’d like. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

Whether you’re in your 20’s or 70’s, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction RelationshipBest Selling Author, writes… …

For many dating is a scary game. In the first installment of Dating Consciously, the dating advice I shared was I asked … “What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives before you get disillusioned by the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?”

In Part Two, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of playing where everyone wins. Play with Passion and Purpose. Dating is a game you can re-write the rules at any time. To play the Dating Consciously game, you need to know that:

1. You are playing a game

2. You willingly decide that it will be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and

3. There are no winners or losers

Remeber when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. It was just plain and simple fun.. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.

Why have so many of us lost it? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! That’s exactly how you create a desired outcome. You pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with limiting beliefs, you become very attractive. You’re energy is literally calling out to like energy to play with it.

The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Dating Consciously

1. Fear of failure/rejection

2. Fear of looking bad/not enough

1. The fear of failure is very human Almost everyone has had failed relationships. You’re not alone there. It doesn’t mean anything about who you are. It’s just something that happened. You would grant anyone of your friends the space to move on after a relationship that didn’t work out. Failing just makes room for something better. Remember your game. [Show up intending to have fun and learn something new, not to prove how great you are or how broken you are.

2. Do you feel ‘less than’?

You feel that you’re just not good enough on some level. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. Most everyone at times feels low in self-confidence. You’re not alone here.

Do your best to remain present and on your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” Now you’ve just paved an energetic pathway for your date.

Playing with passion and purpose is a simple way expand who you are in the moment. Play with self-expression with the focus on having fun. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.

The vibration of FUN is one of the highest around. Laugh and have fun. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.

You can learn these tools and more with Relationship Coaching. Dating, like life, if approached as a fun game where there are no losers goes much more smoothly for everyone.