Last year, I decided I want to find my soulmate online. I had avoided taking this drastic measure for several years but it seemed like everyone I know, including friends and co-workers, are signing on, creating profiles, and looking for love online. If it’s possible for them, then why not for me?
Looking to Find the Right Notes
Like the notes on a sheet of music, life is rhytmic. Even though the people may come and go, you are eager to at some point, to hear the whole concerto. I knew that when I could find that special someone, the missing notes in my life would be found. An enduring addition can happen to your life’s rhythm when you have a soulmate.
Being a novice in the world of internet dating, I was initially hesitant about sharing my personal information online. I wasn’t sure of how to draw the attention of people. Neither was I sure of how much to share about myself. To identify the best way to handle them, I started reading methods used by other users which have proven successful. What I found was truly inspiring and gave me real inspiration.
I discovered that I was not the only skeptical first-timer out there. Cynderella and her current husband first met in a chat room. Being from a small town in a rural area, she did not have many dating options. Like me, her friends suggested she try internet dating.
Cynderella met MJ after just one week. She went through his profile after he first sent her an emoticon showing his interest in her. What she saw intrigued her and she responded. This led to a month of back and forth emails and Instant Messages (IM). Finally, they took it to the next level and met offline.
MJ lived in another state so Cynderella flew to meet him . As soon as she got off the plane she knew she had found her match. “I had been transformed, from being a nervous Nelly I was now a self-confident woman flying across the country to meet a man. Online dating really empowered me to take control of my life. I was fortunate enough to find my soul mate and we now live together happily….and of course, in the same state” says Cynderella. Despite the absence of the glass slippers, the music played loud and clear for all to hear and see.
Enjoyable Surprises!
As I continued searching for my soul mate I came across Mark’s story. Mark was still in college when he met H2O. His friends and he were surfing the internet when a banner for an online dating site popped up. They decided to explore the site as a joke.
Later that same night Mark’s friends made a bet with him. The bet was that if Mark could get a date from the online site within a month, they’d wash his athletic gear for the next one year. Mark decided to take them up on their offer.
He made his profile and started chatting with women, most of whom were highly offended by the bet but Mark continued to be honest for as he says “I wanted to be upfront about the bet so that it doesn’t become an issue later on”.
Mark’s despair grew and hopes of success withered as the month end drew nearer. He would be washing the gear for not only himself the rest of the year – he would also be washing his friends’ gear.
With two days to go Mark stumbled upon a profile that caught his attention. He emailed her and they chatted for the entire night. H2O lived in a nearby town and Mark set up a date to meet her at a local movie theater. The bet didn’t offend her. ”She has an incredible sense of humour” according to Mark. “We dated for 6 months and knew we wanted to be together forever. We are now engaged and plan to get married in 2010.”
Loving the Music
While trying to find my soulmate I was led to great success stories, but it also showed me the problems you can face if you are not careful. Like Mad4You who met a man online that displayed common interests and matched all the criteria laid down.” I was really attracted after a few chats,” says Mad4You. However an unexpected problem came up. “Just because a person tells you they are divorced from a previous spouse does not mean they are not married now!”
The number of single parents looking for love online surprised me. Many singles say that single parents are often great matches. If you’re finding true love though, just make sure your kids are compatible too!
Yellowtutu discovered just the kind of man she’s always been looking for on an internet dating site. She was a single mother to 3 teenaged kids. Digthis, whom she connected to, had 2 sons from a previous marriage. They chatted and communicated for months before letting the kids know.
On the first date Yellowtutu’s eldest daughter fell head over heels for Digthis’s younger son. He too was attracted towards her and so they started meeting without their parents knowledge for over a year. Eventually Yellotutu and Digthis realized that they weren’t perfect for each other at which point the kids spilt their story.
“Though the relationship may not have worked for me I can still fully justify it. My daughter and his son have been happily married now for 3 years and have given us 2 fabulous grandkids,” says Yellowtutu. I realized that while I worked to find my soulmate, the online dating adventure could take unexpected turns toward happiness.
Yes…life is full of rhythms. Pay close attention when you find your soulmate, as I will when I find mine. The music will swell and the notes will sound fuller.